3 Hs

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Your Head:  Drafts a good pitch for “why this person does or doesn't make sense”.  What looks good on paper, practical, and smart to ensure basic needs are met.   

Live in same city ?  Basic lifestyle?  Similar beliefs or okay with differences ?  Politics, religion, age, children, from a stable family, money ?

Moving soon?  

What do you love about job?  Marriage/LTR? Why not? What happened?

Siblings? Like them? You ?

Last time spoke to your mom, dad, siblings, grandparents ?  Kids?

3-5 years from now, where do you see yourself ?  Working, living, traveling ?

What's your relationship to life, god, religion ?  Family background?  How do you feel about it ?

Serve any time ?  (legal issues?)

Your Heart asks, “Am I moved?”  A deeper dive to ensure each truly cares about each other. 

Level of intimacy, sharing, communication, and genuine mutual interest ?  Feel intrigued, inspired, and even awed ? Respect them, believe in their dreams, and do you feel respected? 

Does this person have the capacity to love you like you love them? 

Do you trust this person? 

What’s your favorite characteristic about yourself?

What would your friends say is the best thing about you?

What’s your best and your worst personality trait you got from your mom and your dad? And, why?

• Tell me about your first love?

• Your first heartbreak?

• What’s one of your favorite memories from childhood?

• What’s one of your favorite movies that you’ve seen so many times, but are embarrassed to admit?

• What’s one of your most embarrassing moments?

• What are you looking for in a partner?

• If you could rewind a moment in your life, i.e. the time you didn’t audition for the band, ask so and-so to prom, apologize to a friend, etc.     what’s your moment and what would you have done differently?

Your Hoo-ha:  Wants to be turned on! Your animalistic (physical, sensual, sexual) preferences can override even the best intentions of the head and heart. 

Hot for each other? Feel sexy? Want to make out (even with morning breath)? Is it fun? Do I think I could always feel turned on by him/her? 

Questions to ask your date: 

What are your desert island picks and why? One album? One food? One drink? • What’s your favorite physical feature of yours and why? • What’s your first kiss story? • Your biggest crush? • Most romantic date? • Best romantic vacation? • Best and worst pickup line? • Oddest location you ever picked someone up? • Oddest location you ever had sex? 

Questions to ask yourself 

Is there chemistry? • If so, is the chemistry more than my typical type, i.e. s/he’s unavailable, too young, no substance, needs convincing, etc. or is it just hot, pitter patter, palm-sweaty attraction? • Do they have a twinkle about them? • Do I feel attractive around them? • Do I want to hold their hand forever? • What’s my favorite feature of theirs? • Will I want the lights on or off when I (eventually) jump him/her? • If this was the last person on earth would I be happy being with them? • What would I change about them? Is it changeable?